Friday, August 16, 2013

The Mount Rushmore Story


 Pajama party on I-90.  Minnesota Public Radio and me.  I was practically in heaven.







 Look at the little photo bomber sneaking in!


 As I said, the drive from Madison, Wisconsin to Rapid City, South Dakota, was to be our longest.  The GPS said 11 hours, so I knew it would take longer with stops.  We left the hotel at 5:45 am and had a very enjoyable drive across Wisconsin, Minnesota and South Dakota.  It was breathtaking the whole way until we got probably 100 miles into South Dakota.  It wasn't as beautiful then, and much less green, but soon we were into the Badlands and it was really interesting terrain.  The kids were so good in the car the whole three weeks.  They were so good I couldn't believe it.  I loved this long drive across I-90.  I found a good NPR station with good reception that I was able to listen to for hours in the early morning while the kids dozed.  Aaahhh, heaven.  The car, NPR, beautiful scenery, miles whizzing by.  So my thing!

Traveling across South Dakota, it's apparent that the South Dakotans have spent all their energy farming and building tacky tourist destinations and none of their energy building cities.  We bypassed the corn palace but did pull off the freeway when my car was almost on empty, at a big sign that said, "GAS!"  It turned out to be a real ghost town, with a boarded up gas station and an actual manufactured ghost town that looked like it had once been a tourist trap.  A ghost town ghost town.  Wow!  I told the kids to explore, but to be careful of ghosts.  They are pretty sure the place was crawling with them, and I wouldn't be surprised.  It was a tad creepy!  However, it saved us about $70 compared to what we would have spent if we had stopped at "1882," the ghost town tourist trap down the road.  After our failed attempt to get gas, I got worried we wouldn't see another gas station before we ran out of gas.  I was berating myself for waiting so long, but there is always another opportunity for South Dakota to take your money, and Wall Drug wasn't too far down the road.

I knew the kids, especially Freestone, would be in gift shop heaven here, so I planned to stay for an hour.  We had no trouble filling the whole hour browsing through rock shops, t-shirt stores with half-price Sturgis shirts, (the ride was a couple weeks ago), jackalopes and bumper stickers.  Each kid picked out a 30 cent rock, and they were all happy.  Wall is actually a fun place to stop, but it's like the casino in the Lightening Thief.  You can totally lose track of time and never get out.  We had to make a concerted effort to escape and get back on the road.

Around 4 pm, we drove into an exceedingly heavy rainstorm.  I would have pulled over, but I couldn't see well enough to know where to pull over to.  So I kept going with the windshield wipers at full speed and the rain so loud, we could barely hear Xanthe shouting, "Mooooooom!?  Where are we going?"  I think she kept asking because when I said, Mount Rushmore, that didn't mean anything to her, so she was trying to get an answer that made sense.

And thus began what for me was the low point of the trip, but for the kids, was every bit as thrilling as anything we had done.  Because of the rain, it was quite dark when we arrived in Rapid City.  There was construction getting to our motel, so it was a long last half-hour of the drive.  We were excited, though, because we were staying in these cute little cottages!  When we arrived, I was so happy.  The woman in the office was nice...until I mentioned that there were six of us.  She freaked. out.  Like, started shaking and wringing her hands.  She did not know what to do.  I knew what to do:  let me stay in the four-person cabin with my five small children and move on with her life.

This whole trip, things have gone our way, over and over.  We always get our way.  People are always nice to us, we have been able to cancel reservations that we shouldn't have been able to, we never had any problem with more than four people staying in a room.  So when the woman said that she couldn't cancel my reservation and my only option was to rent an additional cabin for two of my kids to stay in, I was the one who started shaking.  I was livid that she would make a decision that seemed ridiculous and inhumane.  And I was livid that I had to spend that extra money.  The cottages were very clean and cute, but certainly not luxurious.  On the other hand, Ari and Freestone were excited about having their own cabin!

I tried to play that up, so that they would enjoy the experience, I but I couldn't shake my anger at this woman.  It was still raining hard, and so dark, but my plan had been to see Mount Rushmore at night because of the lighting ceremony that they do at 8 pm every night.  We went, and I desperately tried to get an a positive headspace that would allow me to have as much fun as the kids, but I couldn't do it.


We went to Sonic for dinner, which was fun because they brought the food to our car.  Really, kids are so easy to please.  We got to Mount Rushmore at about 7:50 in the dark and pouring rain.  We were literally the only car on the road, so that was a blessing.  I'm sure Mt. Rushmore is usually packed.  I timed it perfectly, but lo and behold, the rangers had started the patriotic lighting ceremony EARLY because of the thunder and lightning.  How often do you think that happens?

So there we were in the parking garage, listening to the ceremony being piped over the loudspeakers, putting on everyone's jackets, and Xanthe wants to bring her tow panda blankies.  First of all, an 8-year-old really shouldn't want to be dragging around her blankies, for crying out loud.  I told her no, they would get wet, but she cried and I caved.

Picture us running up to Mount Rushmore, Xanthe dragging her dumb blankies, Tziporah in the stroller with bare feet, trying to make it for at least part of the ceremony that had started EARLY!  There were maybe 50 other brave souls there, standing around in rain ponchos with cameras.  I looked up and the presidents' faces were tiny!  At least that's how I perceived them.  I felt swindled, like it was some big conspiracy that everyone drives here to see this.  As the patriotic music blared and we all imagined a flag being raised, because the rain was too strong to raise an actual flag, I was managing Xanthe's blankie crisis.  Turns out, the "pandas" were getting wet, just like I said.  So instead of looking up at the monument, Xanthe was trying to stuff them in her shirt.

It was an encapsulation of countless scenarios over the course of the trip, where we are standing in front of something like the Lincoln Memorial or the St. Louis arch and Xanthe is focused on a spot on her shirt, or flopped on the ground because she's thirsty and saw someone with a drink.  I have observed Xanthe on this trip, and felt compassion for her because she doesn't seem to be able to experience and enjoy things like other people do.

But at this moment, I was not feeling compassionate.  I was feeling irate that I couldn't enjoy the moment because Xanthe was sucking up my last ounce of energy.  Just then, a huge surge of lightning lit up the sky for three or four seconds, flashing different colors behind the monument.  It was incredible!  Ptolemy pointed and shouted, "They're lighting it up pink and blue!"  He thought the lightning was just for us.  And maybe it was.  Maybe it was.

Guess what?  The kids (except blankie girl) remember Mount Rushmore as one of the highlights of their trip.  The faces!  The lightning!  The rain!  The gift shop!  Going back to Sonic after Mt. Rushmore for shakes!  The cabins!  Oh, the cabins!  Ari and Freestone were beside themselves.  After I put the other kids in their beds (they were asleep by the time we got home), I wanted to salvage the night for myself.  For heaven's sake, I was at Mount Rushmore with my kids.  Dream come true.

I knocked softly on Ari and Freestone's cabin door.  I invited them to come outside and sit in the rain with me, around a soggy fire pit in the center of a ring of diminutive red cabins, TWO of which were all ours for the night.  I breathed in the humid air, felt the mist on my face, snuggled into my damp Davis Dart sweatshirt and listened to my precious, optimistic, un-jaded children talk about the night through their eyes.  I joked about how dumb it was, and Freestone said cheerfully, "Mom, you're the only one who was disappointed in Mount Rushmore."

I wanted to hug that boy and cry, but I just said, "Free, you're a good kid."

He said, "I want to come back here on our next trip."

Chicago to Milwaukee

 Tziporah appropriately crying in front of the Chicago Waterworks building.  She was upset because I took away her chocolate.  Can you blame her?
 Dale Earnhardt Jr. at Millennial Park
 Before finding the fountain:  "Mom, where's the car?"  After:  "Can we go to the gift shops now?"  Navy Pier.
 This shot is so funny.  Ptolemy was dying to have me take his picture like this.  I put the Instagram caption on it, "I was four years old.  I just wanted to do nuffin.  But my parents were out of control.  It was a new city every day!  Can you help me, doc?"


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 Xanthe gets more worn out than your average kid.  I think it's because a lot of what happens around her doesn't register with her, and she gets bored.  I haven't figured her out yet, but I had a lot of time to observe her on this trip and I feel like I learned a lot.  She loved lying under the jelly bean sculpture.

 Saying good-bye at the airport.  I didn't know Midway was so much closer to the city than O'Hare.  Good to know!

 Coloring!  Man oh man!  The food here was so good.




So.  Where were we?  Monday, our last day in Chicago, we went downtown again, to the parking garage we had found Sunday when we went to the beach.  (1212 Lake Shore Drive) They had an early bird special, in after 10, out by 4, and it's only $12.  Other options cost around $40.  From there, we walked to everything, starting with the American Girl Doll store.  What a place!  You would not believe the scenario repeated over and over:  a mother, a grandmother and a little girl or two, buying dolls, accessories, getting the doll's ears pierces and hair done, having tea, carrying armloads of boxes out of the store.  Scott observed that the children who were buying less seemed the most happy.  There was pressure in the air, for sure, but it was exciting, too.  Freestone observed, "Uh, American Girl dolls are just regular dolls that cost a lot of money."  Bingo.

Ptolemy wanted to go in the Disney Store, where we found $6 stuffed animals on sale.  Things like the minor monsters from Monsters, Inc., and washed-up princesses.  Each child chose one, and they all managed to find a good one.  Ptolemy found a cute little Nemo.  Perfect, since the only thing Tizzy wants to watch in the car is Finding Nemo.  She wails, "Nemo!  Nemo!  Nemo!  Nemonemonemo!"  Just like Nemo's dad.

When we walked to the Millenial Park to have a picnic of cold pizza from the night before, there was a press event starring Dale Earnhardt Jr., who if the interviewer is to be believed, has been the most popular racer in Nascar for 10 years.  He's certainly one of the only racers I've ever heard of.  It was fun to sit on the lawn and listen to the interview with all the excited fans.  Nascar is so big in that region, I mean 3 hours from the Indy 500, I thought there would be more people.  But downtown Chicago is hard to get to, as we found out.  Traffic in and out was heavy at all times, even Sunday night at 8:45!

Too soon, it was time to take Ruby and Scott to the airport.  Scott was wishing he could stay and continue on the adventure with us, but Ruby was anxious to get home and sleep in her bed for one night before heading off to girls' camp.  It took awhile to get to Midway, then it took another while to get out of the city going north to Milwaukee.

I had asked the kids if they wanted to go straight to Madison or take a little detour and see Milwaukee.  They voted for the detour, so we arrived in the city at twilight.  I had looked up a restaurant on diners, drive-ins and dives, but when we pulled up, it looked like...a dive.  Well, it's right there in the title of the show, right?  Taking 5 kids into a place that looked like a bar on Beck Street seemed ill-advised.  We seemed to be in a Hispanic neighborhood from the signs.  We found a darling little Mexican place with a patio.  It had just rained hard and the golden light glistened off the water and illuminated church steeples and water fountains.  The kids were relaxed and happy in the outdoors, and the food was cheap and delicious.  When the little kids went to the restroom, Ari and I kicked back at the table.  I said, "Well, here we are in Milwaukee."  For some reason, I captured that moment with beautiful Ari and the magic time of day, and I'll always remember it.

We got to Madison too late to see anything, which was disappointing to me, but I've been there a number of times, and I had to remind myself that the kids didn't care.  They were only too happy to lay their heads down on the soft, clean pillows at the Springhill Suites, and so was I, because the next day was our big driving day.  I love to drive, but I wanted to make sure I wasn't sleepy.  Ya gotta get across the great plains somehow!


Sunday, August 11, 2013

We Need More Time! The Pennsylvania Countryside, Pittsburgh, Cleveland, Chicago

We left our comfortable, lovely home in the suburbs of D. C. early on Friday, after putting everything in order.  We were so sad to go!  The drive through Maryland and Pennsylvania was picturesque everywhere we looked.  It was one well-kept farm after another.  We turned off the Pennsylvania Turnpike in one of these quaint little towns to get gas.  By sheer coincidence, it was near Shanksville and the Flight 93 Memorial.  The memorial was actually 20 miles out of our way, but there was no way we weren't going to go.  Ari has just read "Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close," a novel about 9-11, so she was very interested.  I have always wanted to know more about the people on that flight and the details surrounding the crash. 



 The crash site.
 Tizzy wanted to hold the umbrella.

 It says, "and unborn child."


 Ari wanted to leave her bracelet.




The memorial was beautiful; several plaques detailing the events of that day, the timeline and the people on the flight.  I had forgotten that there were only 40 people on the flight.  It was raining hard as we followed the marble wall on which were inscribed the names of all the passengers.  One name had inscribed next to it, "and unborn child."  That got us.

Beyond a wooden gate, the crater from the crash has been filled in and a large boulder has been placed to mark the edge of the crash site.  It was a moving tribute, the whole thing was, and we were all glad we went and spent time there.  There is a specific emotion that 9-11 brings when I revisit how I felt that day and the weeks after.  It's uncomfortable to revisit it, but also cathartic in a way.
Driving back to the turnpike, we saw a sign for fresh maple syrup.  Scott must have been feeling adventurous, so we approached an old, well-maintained farmhouse with a huge garden and barn, where a sign said to inquire about syrup in the rear building.  When we entered the building, which looked like a banquet hall, there sat a family in what looked like Amish clothing, all sitting around a table eating lunch in silence.  Or maybe it was the sight of a pink-haired woman and the man in red pants bursting through their door that inspired the silence.  I thought I saw some jaws drop.  They turned out to be from a sect called the German Brotherhood, or something similar, who use electricity but dress and live very much like the Amish.  We had just decided not to take a detour to Amish country, and then we got to buy maple syrup on a real working farm, standing in a real kitchen, talking to a woman in a calico dress and a net on her bun.  She told us that the house was built before the Civil War.  Wow!  All the rooms were extremely neat and tidy.  What would it be like to live such a circumscribed life?

From there, we continued to Pittsburgh, to a restaurant Scott had heard of for Philly steak sandwiches.  It was delish and oozed with atmosphere.  They had a deal where if you gave them a license plate for their wall, you got a free cheese fries.  My car doesn't have a spot for a plate on the front, so I've been carrying around that license plate in my car.  We gave it to the restaurant, so there is a piece of us in Pittsburgh!  I rold Scott, if I get pulled over for not having a front plate, I am not telling the cop that I gave it away for an order of cheese fries!



The hilarious tan lines from Xanthe's shoes.  Her gorgeous skin is so quick to tan!
All of these cities we're visiting are places I haven't been since college.  I drove to and through Pittsburgh several times back then, and I always liked it.  It's different now, but the same.  I am fascinated by Pittsburgh.  It has a grittiness that is all its own, and a pride that is almost paplable in the air.  We spent a few hours walking the blue-collar neighborhoods, taking in Pittsburgh, getting it in our hair and on our skin and under our skin.  Driving past all the row houses, it almost looked like Pittsburgh has never torn anything down.  Some blocks looked old, some even dilapidated.  Somehow, they were poignantly beautiful against the steel background of the skyscrapers.

I want to go back.





Our plan was to stay just outside Pittsburgh, but we got to our hotel and did not like it one bit.  There was nothing going on in this boring suburb, and Cleveland was only a couple of hours away.  Keeping on to cleveland was the best decision we have made this trip.  We ended up racing the clock to Cleveland to get Freestone and Scott to a Cleveland Indians game, arriving just after it started.  The rest of us were planning on going to the hotel, but somehow, that never happens.  The Cuyahoga County Fair was going on, and really, how can you just not go to a county fair in Ohio if it's only 15 minutes away?  We spent the duration of the baseball game eating various deep-friend foods (cookie sough, Oreos, corn dogs, Reeses Peanut Butter Cups...), looking at animals and walking the midway.  Quintessential Midwest summer night. 

We kept getting turned around, though.  Ari asked me, standing in front of the rooster building, "Where are we?"  I said, "I don't know...I think the deep-fried Oreos are this way..."  She said, "No.  Mom. Where ARE we?"

I said, "Oh.  The Cuyahoga County Fair.  Cleveland.  Ohio."

"Oh."

Scott and Freestone lucked out and got a fireworks show in the stadium after their game, so we got to stay until the end of the fair, then picked them up downtown and went to our hotel.  Every day of this trip has been so great.  This day was one of my very favorite.  We all loved Pittsburgh.  We all loved that we decided to keep going to Cleveland while the kids happily watched movies in the car.  We all got to stay out late doing exciting things in Cleveland, yet another city that we wish we had more time to explore.  17 years ago when Scott and I drove through here, he wanted to visit the rock n Roll Hall of Fame, and we didn't.  And we didn't again this time.  Maybe next time!
 The famous "Touchdown Jesus" mosaic at Notre Dame.

The next day I can summarize fairly quickly:  We slept in a little bit, drove a lot, visited the Notre Dame campus in South Bend, took an unneccesary detour, found a better chicago hotel and then, finally, got down to the business of enjoying our time in Chicago, starting with the Taylor Swift concert in Soldier Field!  Traffic was crazy, but parking was worse, so it was lucky that I could just drop off Scott, Ari and Ruby at the stadium.  The other kids were so patient, and traffic was so bad getting out, I pulled over in a no parking zone in front of the Field Museum to get them grilled cheese sandwiches from a little kiosk.  There were so many limos parked for the concert, nobody cared that we were there, and we got to wolf down our sandwiches in front of one of the best views in the world.  Lake Michigan, the Chicago skyline, the sailboats, the clouds...I think it's what Chicago residents live for, nights like this.

After swimming at the hotel, we picked up the kids and Scott downtown.  They all said the concert was amazing!  Taylor Swift puts on a quality show, apparently!  she is certainly talented and seems to have her wits about her.  What luck that Scott was able to do that with the girls. It about killed us that Golda wasn't here.  I miss her!  She had fun at her Ririe-Woodbury dance workshop with her dance company friends, though.  they got to stay overnight in Salt Lake.
 Ptolemy said, "How 'bout tomorrow do nuffin'?".....

 The beach!...
 ...in the city!  Again, the weather was utterly perfect.  Not too hot, not too cold, sunny, a few pretty clouds, just a Ferris-Bueller day to be in Chicago.  The beach was perfect.  The whole day was perfect.





















 Watching the planes fly RIGHT over the pizza place, like 50 feet above our heads.  Freestone said, "I sure hope there's an airport around here."  There was. :)


Food stress.  She felt better after getting some food in her tummy.
 Freestone finally got his deep dish Chicago style pizza!  Truly, it was above and beyond any cheesiness we have ever experienced.

 Xanthe helping out at the hotel.  Our pool was broken and they sent us across the street to the much more posh Courtyard, where the pool was like an exclusive resort.  No kids...except us.
Me in my post-swimming attire.  We took this because I have a picture of me standing in the same spot when I was in college.  I'll have to dig it up.

Today, Sunday in Chicago, we opted to hang out at the beach on Lake Michigan, Lake Shore Drive.  Another brilliant decision.  Ptolemy had suggested "doing nuffin," and we chose the perfect spot for that.  Scott and the kids had easy access to the Magnificent Mile, and the weather was absolutely dreamy.  Ptolemy is so confused.  He looked around at the beach and said, "Where's the beach Jennie and I go to?"  He meant Imperial Beach in California.  Later, he said, "Let's go up to our condo."  We're not in California, kid!

Tonight was the experience Freestone has been waiting for, deep dish Chicago style pizza, and it did not disappoint.  So good!  After a good swim, we packed the pajama'd kids in the car and drove to see Wrigley Field.  Chicago at night is so, so beautiful.  We drove all over the neighborhoods, and a lot was going on for a Sunday night!  There was a huge block party near Wrigley Field and no shortage of bars and clubs packed to overflowing.  Sad that it's our last night here!   It's killing me!  Scott, too.