Saturday, October 21, 2017

Fall Break

We didn’t plan anything big for fall break. We’ve been just focused on the Dopp cruise, so anything after that we didn’t give much thought. As it got closer, I realized that we had virtually no ballet of any kind over spring break. I still have the store and Scott still has work, and there are scattered Nutcracker and stuff, but we managed to do an overnighted all together at Grandma and Grandpa’s cozy and comfy cabin. Scott went up early in the day with the little kids and Freestone and fished with Nikki and Grandma and Grandpa. I went up later with the girls. We loved every moment in the beautiful, peaceful Cub River Canyon. Friday morning, we lazed about and just relaxed with each other. I had to be home for the store and Araceli and Freestone’s fight scene rehearsal, so I took them and Xanthe and Vilina and again left Scott with the little two. By the time he got home late Friday, we had left for Park City. I had to persuade the kids a little bit, but it was fun. We shopped a little and relaxed a lot. It was a beautiful drive. Freestone and I stayed up late, and we all woke up to snow.

Breakfast at Starbucks, and we were on our way home. On the freeway, we passed Scott, Ptolemy and Tizzy going up to Park City. We laugh that people might think we’re divorced. It’s so much easier dividing everyone up so everyone can do something they like. Scott called me and said, “Where’s your alimony check?” Har har. Now I’m at the music store, and I’ll take the four big kids to the ballet tonight while Scott is relaxing in Park City with the little kids. Tomorrow we’ll meet up at Escher’s baby blessing in Salt Lake. I’ll be happy to see Scott and the kids. We’ve had a good mix of relaxation and fun, and we needed it.























Ballet West Gala

Scott and I joined the Ballet West Guild. We spend so much time at the ballet, we figured why not? The gala was super fun. It was a nice dinner at a country club with people who are all friendly and eager to chat and have a good time. And we got name tags. Wow! Even though we don’t have as much time as some of the others to contribute, it’s fun to be included. It would be easy to be intimidated, but everyone we’ve met so far is great. Tonight, we’re manning a table at Aladdin for the guild, in exchange for free tickets. Win win. And we love Ballet West, so it’s a good place to make connections.

Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Ruby in Ghana

After Ruby graduated from high school, she was free to do whatever she wanted to do. She planned on being a nanny in Miami but that fell through. It turned out to be a very good thing that it fell through. She immediately started on her plan B, which was to go on a volunteer trip in a foreign country. She literally had the choice of anywhere to go and dozens of programs to choose from. It seems like the right fit when she chose a music program in Ghana. She would teach violin and guitar at an after-school program in residential facility for kids who have no place to live. She spent the whole summer working at my music store, earning money, doing any odd job she could find, and saving up for the program. We did a fundraiser at the music store and she ended up taking 8 violins, 10 ukuleles, and two guitars with her to Ghana.

Scott and I drove her to Las Vegas where she caught a flight from Las Vegas to Washington DC. Then Washington DC to Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. Then a flight from Ethiopia to Accra, Ghana, where she was picked up at the airport by the people she would live with for the next few months. We took Freestone and Ptolemy along with us to Las Vegas to make it a fun little trip. They were happy to spend some last moments with Ruby. We tracked Ruby's flight progress over the next literally two days. It took forever to get there, but there is no direct route from Salt Lake City to Accra. I had a moment of panic when the flight tracker showed that her flight would get into Ethiopia too late to make her connection. It was the middle of the night in little old Kaysville and I was so scared that she would have to stay overnight in Ethiopia with all of her luggage after being in the air for 24 hours. Then suddenly the flight tracker switched back to its original path and showed that the flight was getting in right on time. It was very weird. So she did end up making all of our connections and everything worked out flawlessly.

After Ruby arrived in Ghana, there was a major period of adjustment. I won't lie. It was brutal. Living conditions were basically squalor covered with sand. James Town, the area of Accra that Ruby lives in, is right on the beach and it is in a very very poor section. There is human waste everywhere, the air is filled with the smoke of burning garbage. Kids were roaming freely all day with nothing to do, which is why this program was started in the first place. Ruby became very ill, like almost everyone does when they first go to Africa. She had a fever and everything was wrong. I think if she had felt better, she would have come home. She said the whole experience was a horrific nightmare. She wanted to challenge herself, though, so she committed to staying at least a month before she made any decisions. That was a long month. She did have some fun though. She and some of the other volunteers took a long road trip to the north of the country where they toured a national park and saw elephants. And she taught a few lessons to the kids who are absolutely gorgeous and adorable. It was a few weeks before school started, though, so she really felt like she was wasting her precious time. Even after school started Ghana just doesn't operate on the same sort of timeframe that the United States does. Everything happens at a more leisurely pace. It can be very frustrating to deal with when you are 18 years old and have lots of plans and lots of things you want to accomplish in your life, to be sitting in a pile of crap and Ghana not feeling like you're contributing anything. It really is an exercise in patience to learn how to adapt to another culture. Ruby understood going in that it was important for HER to adapt to Ghana, instead of trying to make Ghana adapt to her expectations or her life experience. Even so it was difficult. I think as time went on Ruby got more and more enthusiastic about the Ghana experience and it has been wonderful. I am glossing over a lot of details here but it has been so fun for us and such a growth experience to follow Ruby on this journey.
One of the powerful things that Ruby has been able to do in Ghana is to get this sweet little girl in school. Her name is Dutchess and when the other kids went back to school she didn't. There was no money for tuition. Ruby started a campaign and raised money here in Utah to get the chest back to school. She is 12 years old and she can't read. Such a sweet bright little girl just fell through the cracks, and Ruby was not going to let that happen. On my Kindle that I share with Ruby,  I noticed books popping up like "Helping your child to read" and "steps to reading success." Ruby was all in, helping this girl. So many times I have wished Ruby could just bring her home to see if little Kaysville.


This is the LDS church in the background. Everything looks bombed out in James Town. I'm so glad Ruby took some chances to travel to other parts of the country, because JT is not a place anyone would ever visit.
In New York, we met an artist from West Africa. He is from Burkina Faso. We bought a little piece of art from him.
Then when we were in Canada, we ran into a woman who had a food stand and she was from Ghana! She was so friendly that two hours later herf gun and friends were visiting Ruby in little Jamestown. Ruby is so funny. She messaged me, "I wanted to read my book and relax, but nooooo! In the two hours you had in Canada, you found the only Ghanaian and had her send her friends to visit me!" Ha ha. That is true.
Washing clothes by hand. I asked Ruby if the bedroom door locks. She said, "Um, it doesn't really close all the way." Great. She shares a room with other volunteers. At first there were 4 women and a guy, then it was just Ruby and one other woman, and now there is another woman, a medical student from Italy. The other volunteer is from Sweden. Ruby went on a trip with her to Cape Coast to see the slave castles, etc. Very sobering to say the least.

The place, JayNii Foundation, is just next to the lighthouse. The time Ruby has spent and is spending in Ghana has taught her a lot and made her grow in many different ways. It will be so great to see her in a month!

Freestone

I hate that I never write on my blog anymore. I'm just going to do it randomly and whenever I have the brainpower, regardless of chronology, so at least I have some thoughts on paper. "Paper."

Freestone is fun. His life is amazing. I love to hang out with him because it's just so easy and funny. He does half of his 9th grade classes online, so I take him to school at 9:30. Then he walks to my music store at 1 and works for an hour while I run errands. He catches the bus to Salt Lake at 2:30 and is at Ballet West for the rest of the day. Either Scott or I pick him up at night, usually along with Ptolemy or Xanthe after their Nutcracker rehearsal. He always has stories to tell about his friends or his teachers. Ballet West is such an incredible place.

My favorite stories are about "Mr. Jeff," or Jeff Rogers, Freestone's favorite teacher. When I was 14 years old and finally made the Ballet West Nutcracker, it was the highlight of my life. I was an Oriental Servant during the epoch when BW had taken out the actual dance, so Servant was what they referred to as a "furniture part." Yes, I was furniture in a turban and pancake makeup and I loved every second! At that time, Jeff was at the beginning of a brilliant career at Ballet West. In fact, that was the year he won the Princess Grace award, an award that wasn't won by a member of BW again until just this year. So I was completely gobsmacked by Jeff. I was going to marry him. He was just so cool, it was hard to take it all in!

Well, I never married Jeff, luckily for Scott ;) (and Jeff's husband.) But I do love to hear stories about him. He is an excellent teacher and works Freestone to death, which Freestone loves.  Freestone started class at Ballet West last January, after making friends with all the other kid in Nutcracker. In less thanone year, he has made so much progress it would make your jaw drop. He works SO hard. He takes extra classes. He stretches and conditions at night after he gets home from hours of class. Right now, he's taking regular class, plus rehearsing for two Nutcracker productions, the BW gala performance, another BW performance that I can't remember the name of, and also has private classes to prepare for his YAGP solo in February. He auditioned to be represented by BW in YAGP, just for the experience, and he got it. I was stunned! It will teach him so much.

As I've said before, I'm sad for our girls, especially Golda, who loved Ballet SO much and dreamed of dancing at Ballet West. We just couldn't afford it. Freestone started out with a half scholarship and this year, was awarded a full scholarship of $4,700.00.  It is humbling to see what he is being given along with that scholarship, and also sad to watch what any kid could have, if they just had the money. I'm grateful for that initial scholarship, because it truly changed Freestone's life. And we get to be along for the ride!
At Stella's recital
Doing homeowrk and trying out his "slutty Santa" Halloween costume. Oh dear.

In picture day makeup. He had fun with the eyeliner.

Friday, October 13, 2017

Coco


Happy birthday to Coco! All my life, she has been a Yes mom. And her yesses have opened all the possibilities in the world. Her enthusiasm has made those possibilities realities, and her automatic love for everyone around me has made the journey possible.

When I was little, I would ask my mom if I could change the furiture around in my room. Yes!

When I was accepted at Indiana University, I remember my mom saying to my dad, "Oh, let her go. It will be fun!"

When I asked if I cold bring friends and roommates home for Christmas? Yes! No waffling. Just, "Of course."

And now, can she drive my kids to ballet? Can she take Tizzy to school? Can she take care of all our kids while we're out of town for 9 days? Yes.

Mom's friend Elayne came into my music store yesterday. She swims with my mom every day, so she knows everything about my mom, and by extension, everything about her grandchildren. It was fun to hear my mom's take on each kid, through Elayne. I heard that my mom doesn't just say yes, she really wants to say yes. I guess she loves us or something!

When Ruby left for Ghana in August, several people confided in her or me that they had wanted to do that exact same thing at 18, or during college, but their parents said no. That would never have happened to me, and it won't happen to my children. Of course I worry about Ruby! But who am I to say no? It's not a concept I was raised with. :)



Thursday, October 12, 2017

Scott


Happy birthday, Scott!  Every year, every day, I realize more and more how fortunate I am to be married to this guy. He always makes the right call. He is perfect, really. He gets it, and when he doesn't, he grows. There is never anything he does that isn't in the best interest of his family, but he never reminds them of it. He never says to the kids, "You're lucky I do so much for you," or "Everything around here is mine. I make the money." I hear fathers say things like that, and I cringe. Everything Scott has and is, belongs to me and his kids. He doesn't need thanks, he doesn't need attention. He gets the satisfaction from the giving and the providing, not from the recognition. So we sometimes forget how incredible he is! Or maybe we don't. It's evident all the time. Examples:
This was right after we traipsed two long blocks to Kaiser bakery because one of us was hungry.
Cats is back on Broadway, which I never would have known if Scott hadn't told me, and asked me if I wanted to go. I sobbed through the whole first half, just thinking about how much Scott loves me, to sit through Cats AGAIN, even though he hates it.
That same night, we went to see the New York City Ballet. Scott loves it because it's what all our kids love.
1 am, on a pizza crawl, because I said it would be wimpy to go to bed that early.
Next time we're in New York, he wants to see an opera at the Met. See? He's perfect.